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The Great Reclamation of Power: Masculine and Feminine Energy

• Bart and Sunny Miller • Season 1 • Episode 64

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They told you to be sweet. To play small. To suppress your power. That success meant hustle, that power meant control, and that love meant compromise. But what if they were wrong? What if everything you desire—deeper passion, magnetic presence, effortless success—wasn’t about doing more, but about reclaiming the energy you were born to embody?

This is your wake-up call. A reclamation of masculine and feminine energy, polarity, and power. If your relationships feel flat, your ambition feels exhausting, or you’ve lost touch with the fire inside you, it’s not because you’re broken—it’s because you’ve been playing by the wrong rules.

Your energy dictates who holds power, who commands presence, and who ignites desire. If the spark is gone, if success feels forced, or if something inside you is craving more, the problem isn’t you—it’s your energy.

Reclaim it, and everything changes. Are you ready? 🔥

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Speaker 1:

Welcome to. We Play Full Out with Bart and Sunny Miller. Take it away, Sunny.

Speaker 2:

Well, we just got back from Funnel Hacking Live in Las Vegas. The last dance. Woo-hoo, and boy did we dance, we did dance, we danced a lot.

Speaker 1:

A lot while we were in Vegas.

Speaker 2:

That is not going to be our last dance, no, no, but anyway. You had the privilege of hosting a roundtable and you were expecting to talk about business style and maybe a little magnetic alter ego effect 100%.

Speaker 1:

But what happened? First question was on relationship and on all sorts of things in people's personal lives. Just, they just started unraveling.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, I heard about relationships. Yep, I heard a little bit about energy and. I heard a little bit about masculine and feminine energy 185%. And since there are so many of these ideas swirling around that people want to talk to you about, I think we should talk about it today.

Speaker 1:

Okay, let's hit it, let's do it. All right, might as well share it with the world.

Speaker 2:

Okay, I'm going to start with feminine energy.

Speaker 1:

Okay, because you're a woman.

Speaker 2:

I'm a woman and my dominant energy is feminine.

Speaker 1:

Let's go.

Speaker 2:

So one particular idea that I hear from women a lot is that feminine energy seems weak to them. They don't feel empowered by the thought of stepping into feminine energy, and probably even more so if you're an entrepreneur and trying to own a business like you feel like you really got to step into a different kind of energy than feminine. I have heard some women say that they were taught in early age that women who use their looks to get ahead in life were kind of of no value that they need as skills not looks.

Speaker 2:

We were on a podcast just yesterday.

Speaker 2:

I'm really excited for that episode to come out. But you were asked the question point blank Don't you think it is harder for women to be successful in business than men? Now, I understand all of these thoughts and feelings because I think our society has kind of trained us this way a little bit. It's been driven by strong, results-driven men. They can be bold, aggressive and can be very intimidating. Women have been taught from a young age to be sweet, to be people-pleasers, that our looks are one of our highest values and we aren't as physically strong as men, so in that regards we can be seen as weaker be seen as weaker.

Speaker 2:

I mean my little Xander's, now 15 and I was going to the gym every day, lifting every day, doing everything every day that I could to get muscles. As soon as that testosterone hit, he could freaking beat me in arm wrestling. It's just ridiculous, right, but it happens and it's okay. Now I think you and I are on the same page, that pretty much all of our answers can be found in nature. So we take a look at the ultimate feminine energy, which is Mother Nature. The same energy that grows lush forests and intricate flowers and nurtures all living creatures on the earth also brings hurricanes, earthquakes and wildfires.

Speaker 2:

Feminine energy is a force that creates and destroys worlds. It's like a storm powerful, overwhelming, and has the ability to reshape and transform everything in its path. It's unstoppable, expansive and magnetic, rather than passive or fragile. It has the power to move, to transform, to invite, as well as to nurture and love. A fully embodied woman in her feminine energy right is magnetic. She's the ocean, the storm and the sunrise. So if you have a dominant energy, feminine energy profile, how can you step into that more fully? But first I want to hear your thoughts on that and an energy profile.

Speaker 1:

How can you step into that more fully? But first, I want to hear your thoughts on that. Well, I think that a lot of people have heard the wrath of a woman. They've also heard if mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy, right? So I think there's a lot of truths out there that are said, but they're quiet. So I want to just say this I think this topic is absolutely genius and I think what you just brought up is such a, such a beautiful thing and such an um, an amazing thing to talk about.

Speaker 1:

And how I look at it is, if you take a cloud and you have that cloud of energy there and it's building and it's got all these different things and it's, you know, the storm is brewing.

Speaker 1:

The man is the one that is able to use the lightning from the feminine energy and strike with it, but the woman is the one that creates and is brilliant and so beautiful in just building that energy, just building, build, build. And then the man can be there to help, just go and put their energy with it. And that's how they align, in my opinion, is we're the wielders and these women are these magnificent creators, just like the universe, right, or just like mother nature. So there's so many, so many things that we can watch, uh, in nature. That makes this way easier to understand for everybody. But I just want you to think about that example, so you know. Um, so much we can go into and I don't want to get too deviated. But what I think is is, as men, we forget to create a container for these amazing, beautiful creators, to create that big, beautiful, gorgeous energy, harness that energy and then just channel it. So it's like we're we're working all together in this magnificent force to be reckoned with.

Speaker 2:

I love it and I do actually have that listed. A little bit later and you said it's so much better than I could have said it, Awesome, well, let's keep.

Speaker 1:

I could have said it Awesome, well, let's keep going the channelers. Yeah.

Speaker 2:

It's so important to have one.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, and I think, once you understand each other in the masculine and feminine energy we have both inside of us, yep, so there is time when the feminine needs to step into some masculine energy and the masculine needs to step into some feminine energy, and it's the opposite way around.

Speaker 2:

Absolutely.

Speaker 1:

Then they're the channelers. Of that you know. But understanding your powers allows you to understand which role you're actually playing. But if you're both trying to channel energy at the exact same time and have nothing, creation, it's like it's just going to run out of power, absolutely.

Speaker 2:

And you know this newsletter was quite long. This podcast can. We can go into more detail on Um. We didn't really take a deep dive into the specifics of masculine versus feminine energy, um, but kind of a way to say it is that masculine energy is goal-driven results-driven strategic logical, action-oriented.

Speaker 2:

They're going to execute when feminine is creative, it's intuitive, it's more flowing, it's more emotional, and it does take both energies. Because, let's be clear, if a woman was only in her feminine energy all day, there would be no action, right, right, you know, it'd be a little bit chaotic and, um, nothing would get done well, and a man probably wouldn't sit and take time to play with a child yeah, and I love the kind of an analogy of like a man as a tree, for example, if it's too rigid and a storm comes, it's going to snap and break.

Speaker 1:

That's right. It's got to be able to flow and be adaptable and do all those things.

Speaker 2:

And you know, vice versa with a woman, obviously, like I just said, she can't just be flowing like a river, aimlessly, with no, with no course, yeah. So that's kind of the gist of masculine, feminine, and we'll talk a little about what happens when you stay too long in the one that's not your dominant energy in a little bit, but does that kind of cover the two?

Speaker 1:

Yeah, I think so. If you have questions, let us know.

Speaker 2:

Yeah. So for those women who want to step into this magnificent power, there are some things that you can do. A lot of people are like I don't know how to do that right. So the first would be to embrace your presence, stop rushing and start commanding. So it's magnetic, it's not forceful. Instead of constantly chasing, slow down and allow yourself to attract and you know, I kind of hit on looks a little bit bit, but attraction is really important as a woman.

Speaker 2:

yeah, just like it is for a man to be attracted to a woman right that's part of our natures 100 and sometimes we get mad about it, but that's part of who we are.

Speaker 1:

We're here to attract exactly right, and that's why you know it's crazy that we belittle women, for first and foremost we want them to be beautiful, but then we want to chastise them for being beautiful. Yeah, and then you know it's a crazy dynamic that we live when we're when we're anyway, I won't get on too much for rant here.

Speaker 2:

I won't either, but I do like just one more thing, like when you're a little girl, like what is more fun than dressing up in beautiful dresses and twirling around?

Speaker 1:

Just being creative.

Speaker 2:

Putting your mom's makeup on. It's so playful and fun, and we've turned it into something that is derogatory in a lot of ways, but that's part of who we are. Let's play with it instead of being so serious about it.

Speaker 1:

So good.

Speaker 2:

So an action step would be the next time you enter a room, pause before speaking, take a deep breath, soften your gaze and let your presence be felt before you even say a word. People respond to energy before words, but a note of caution here is, if you don't feel confident in yourself, that is the energy you're projecting.

Speaker 1:

Yep.

Speaker 2:

So it does take some inner work here to be like confident, feel like you should be in the room, feel like you do have something to give, that you do have self-worth, because all that energy is what people are going to give back to you.

Speaker 1:

Yeah Right, same with men, yep.

Speaker 2:

Next is to own your expression. Speak with emotion, not just logic. I have struggled with this so bad. I did not want to be an emotional person, didn't see myself as an emotional person. The older I get, I realized I was just suppressing them.

Speaker 1:

Yeah.

Speaker 2:

Big time.

Speaker 1:

Yep.

Speaker 2:

So masculine energy focuses on facts and structure. Feminine energy moves people through emotion, storytelling and connection. And again, you need both.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, oh, absolutely.

Speaker 2:

But when sharing an idea, instead of listing facts, paint a picture with your words. Use sensory language, tell a story and invite people into an experience rather than just giving them information. That's another way you can step into that feminine energy. The next is to develop deep intuition and to trust your gut without needing permission. It can be scary. Feminine energy is deeply intuitive, but many women have been conditioned to doubt their instincts.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, and I think just not to interrupt you, but one thing to just throw in here that's why, when there's like something that happens with a child or things like that, maybe that's where Sonny's going. But then that is exactly that intuition that we're talking about. And a lot of women are like why didn't you get that download? It's like I don't know.

Speaker 1:

you know, because the men men is, that's not our norm, right All the time, and so women have that very, very strong intuitive power and if they build it, it's like they once again can channel that energy and then the masculine can help bring it out and take action.

Speaker 2:

Yes, so good. I'm so glad you brought that up. Just a funny story, because you know might as well tell stories. But like my daughter, mercedes and Trace had been on a trip to Hawaii or something and I knew that they were coming back or whatever, I went out to feed horses. It was like eight o'clock in the morning and I had this thought like I should go get her groceries. She probably doesn't have any food in the house and they're probably like super tired.

Speaker 1:

And.

Speaker 2:

I was like no, they've already had breakfast. They probably, you know, everything's fine. I talked to her later in the day and that was the case. They were very hungry, they had no groceries in the house and they needed food, you know. So it's just like one of those things where we do have intuition and for the longest time I thought I wasn't intuitive, that I'm not intuitive, Like people are intuitive, this superpower that other people have, but I don't have it. What I've come to realize is that intuition is an inherent trait. You just you don't not have it.

Speaker 2:

You have it, it's there. The only thing is it could be a little weak if you haven't listened to it and haven't followed it. So the way it's just like any muscle listen to it, follow it, and it can be even like the smallest things, like if I would have just called her to see yeah if I would have followed that.

Speaker 1:

That allows my intuition to grow it, grows it for sure.

Speaker 2:

Which I think you have a superpower in this. So the next time you feel a gut instinct about a decision, act on it without over-explaining or seeking validation. Let your intuition guide you, even in small ways, whether it's a business move, a relationship dynamic or simply sensing someone's energy. Next one is to drop the over-giving and learn to receive fully. Women are conditioned to give, give, give, but I think it's also in our natures Like we want to give.

Speaker 1:

Absolutely.

Speaker 2:

But true feminine power also receives as effortlessly as it gives.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, and just to bring up here, just look at how the woman's body is created. Yes, versus how the masculine body is created.

Speaker 2:

Yep.

Speaker 1:

And that will answer a lot of things. I won't go into detail because you should be able to figure that out, but reality is is that women were created to receive, Yep, but they're also created to give, you know. But their, their real core structure is to be able to have a man give and to provide and to be there and to nurture and to receive that at a high bliss and build that energy and build that flow and that energy builds for the man to be able to go wow, boom, you know, and then deliver.

Speaker 2:

Yes, I love that. So the next time someone gives you a compliment, instead of downplaying it, pause, smile and say thank you.

Speaker 1:

Yeah.

Speaker 2:

Or you know any type of thing. Don't try to give justifications, just receive.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, and I think one thing you can see in this is and I think a lot of we don't realize this but let's say, guys walk into a room, a group of guys. You don't. If a guy says I'm cold right now, you don't see a group of guys jump up and go grab him a coat.

Speaker 2:

Yeah.

Speaker 1:

Dude, you just go, do it Right, and they don't walk in and go oh, your hair looks so good today. That's masculine energy, you guys. So, like you know, but when women get together, it's different, right, it's a different energy is what I'm trying to show here. So if you're wanting to see masculine, feminine energy, but in a relationship sometimes it's like Well, I made the hint that I needed a coat and he didn't go get it. Dudes, don't do that. It's just not the nature. So you know what I'm saying. But women get to a group and it's all of a sudden, oh, I feel kind of chilly. Oh, do you want me to get you a blanket? Do you need this? And four women are all in the one motion Do?

Speaker 2:

you want a blanket.

Speaker 1:

Do you want a coat? Just you can see these differences very clearly, very quickly. If you just watch natures of when guys are together versus when girls are together, you know like it'll start to clue you in on feminine and masculine energy.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, I love that. So the next one is to move your body with intention, cultivate flow and sensuality. Feminine energy actually lives in the body. It is movement, rhythm and expression. The more connected you are to your body, the more alive and powerful you will feel.

Speaker 1:

Yeah.

Speaker 2:

I think that's why dancing is a feminine energy 100%, Because you're in your body, you're moving it, you're feeling it, you're fully present with your body right.

Speaker 2:

That's why it's so sensual, Yep. So each morning, take two minutes to move your body in a way that feels good. This could be dancing, stretching, rolling your shoulders or swaying your hips. The key is just to feel it. Don't just do it so good, Feel it.

Speaker 2:

Next is to set boundaries, like a queen. Feminine energy is not passive. It is powerful, clear and unwavering when needed. And setting boundaries can be a difficult thing, but it's so, so important. So the next time someone asks you to do something, you feel compelled to say yes, take a step back and get back to them, or just say no if it's not in alignment with what you need to have happen. Next one is to step into your magnetism. Lead with your energy, not just your actions. Again, masculine energy pushes. Feminine energy pulls the most powerful. Women don't chase. They draw people in. So, before an important conversation, sales call or even a date, spend two minutes focusing on how you want to feel. Again, feel. Do you want to feel confident? Do you want to feel grounded, radiant? Embody that energy before you enter the room and watch how people respond differently. We kind of already hit on that a little bit so good.

Speaker 2:

And then the last one awaken your sensual and sexual energy. Own your full expression. Feminine energy is deeply sensual. That doesn own your full expression. Feminine energy is deeply sensual. That doesn't just mean sexuality. It means being fully present in your body and experiencing life through your senses. So sensual energy is power. A woman who is in tune with her body is magnetic because she carries an effortless confidence that draws people in. The sexual energy is creation energy. It's the same force that gives birth to life. It's a source of power, passion and radiance.

Speaker 2:

So for the first one, for the sensual part of it, start by activating your senses daily. Wear soft fabrics that feel exurious against your skin. Light a candle, breathe deeply, savor the scent, eat your food more slowly, move your body intentionally and sensually right. And the next one is to embrace your sexual energy as a source of confidence. Before a big event, sales call or date, spend five minutes activating your body. This can be through movement, breath, work or simply putting on music that makes you feel alive. Instead of hiding your sexuality, own it. When you feel comfortable in your skin, you radiate power without trying.

Speaker 1:

I love it so much. So well said.

Speaker 2:

Anything you'd like to add to that?

Speaker 1:

No, I don't think so. I think you said it so well and I think it's just. It's such a beautiful thing to hear from a woman because there's nothing I mean as a man. It's just so refreshing when a woman can just own who she is, own her ability to be sensual, own her ability to be sexy and know that she is, and just own who she is fully and not try to hide herself and try to be embarrassed of herself and try to shame herself and try to do all those things that make her more masculine and throw her in her masculine energy.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, and you know, I think we kind of get it in our heads that sexuality is for men, like for the chasing, for the whatever. It's for everybody else, but it's for us. It's about feeling alive, embodied and powerful for yourself 100%. And then, obviously, if you choose to share it with someone, more power.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, I mean great.

Speaker 2:

So again, feminine energy is not weak. It's the energy that moves mountains, builds empires and transforms lives. It's intuitive, magnetic and unstoppable. When you fully step into it, you don't have to force your way forward. You become the woman who naturally attracts everything she desires.

Speaker 1:

And that's why this statement once again, go back to patterns. Yeah, Behind every great man lies a woman a woman. Yep, right, I mean, there's nothing when you come back from a bad day or from whatever it might be, to have that grounding effect of a woman, that nurturing of. You've got this. Let me build some energy in my cloud and put it in you so you can go wield a powerful force. When you walk into a bedroom and your wife has something on that just makes you go, whoa, I'm alive.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, the beast inside of me just woke up. You know, she just looks so stunning and so attractive and so fun. You know there's nothing more energetic than in the middle of the day, of just that cool text that comes from your wife that says I see you, I believe in you, I've got you, I'm building energy for you. You know it's like whoa, whoa, focus. You know I got to get back to what I am Go, go, go, go. You know. But I mean there's just something about that. Go, go, go, go. But I mean there's just something about that. And there's also something about a man being able to stop for a minute and just build a container for her and say, hey, I saw you today. I really saw you and how you reacted with our kids and how kind you were and how you just cherished that moment with them. And I saw you and how beautiful you looked in those yoga pants.

Speaker 2:

You know it's just something fun about building a container for each other that energy to grow and expand and get more powerful. Right, I love that. Okay, now we're going to switch over to masculine energy. Okay, if feminine energy is like a storm, which is wild, powerful and ever moving, masculine energy is the mountain. The mountain doesn't chase, it stands firm, it doesn't waver in the wind. It anchors the earth, it provides stability, protection and presence. It is a force that cannot be ignored. Certainty when a man loses touch with his masculine energy, he becomes like a crumbling peak, eroded over time. He doubts his decisions, he hesitates in his actions and he drifts instead of leading. So, instead of the rock, he becomes the dust.

Speaker 2:

And I think reclaiming your masculine power isn't about being aggressive, emotionless or controlling. It's about becoming unshakable. It's about standing firm in who you are, leading with clarity and embodying the kind of presence that makes people feel safer, just by being around you. Anything you want to add to that. I look at you and your masculine energy and it's like you said. I feel like it should be hit on a little more. It's just like you're the strength, your stability. I'm never afraid when I'm with you, because I know you're going to take care of me and the kids, like, without a doubt in my mind. You know you give me a container to thrive and grow and you don't put limitations on me, you don't try to control me, like there's. There's so much to like a true masculine King that I don't know. It's just like such a true partner to allow and to encourage and to help expand when, at the same time, like you, stand in your own power and your certainty. I don't know, it's just amazing.

Speaker 1:

Well, I think there's a point, as a man, that you've got to stand there and know what you're doing and make a decision and really be able to make the decision and go.

Speaker 2:

Yes, right or wrong?

Speaker 1:

Yes, but that doesn't mean you're not going to fail, but just stand there and lead and go right. And I think there's another one of how you raise boys to be men, right. There's a point of you know we've got to get this wood in, we've got to go do this, we've got to do these hard things. That builds us and builds character, builds this kind of stuff, you know, and I think we, uh, as men, sometimes forget that it's good to go camping, it's good to build a fire, it's good to understand, then, how to lead. It's good to be, you know, able to go and wrestle and literally go box and go, you know, go, go, be aggressive, go, lift weights, do something that really just, you know, just really get you in that masculine energy and allows you to just be focused and riveted, and you know all that kind of stuff.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, I would say, like when you're fully in your masculine energy and because I feel so safe in it, there is nothing more sexy to me.

Speaker 1:

So cool? Yeah it is, and it is a different, it's a way different energy. You know, when you're in that protection, warrior energy, in those things you are on, you will not deviate.

Speaker 2:

Yeah.

Speaker 1:

You know you're, you're there, you're fully present in it.

Speaker 2:

You're the mountain.

Speaker 1:

You're unmovable 100%.

Speaker 2:

So how do you reclaim your masculine? I can't talk. How do you reclaim your masculine energy? So I'll go through some of these and you pipe in on what you feel. So stop seeking permission, decide and move Good. So a weak man waits. He waits for the perfect moment, the perfect plan, the perfect validation.

Speaker 1:

Like you just said, a strong man decides and moves, and in movement I wanted to just point out there a masculine man builds his body.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, that's number two, is it Okay? So it's very important.

Speaker 1:

You lift weights, you do something that makes you feel masculine. The body is part of that. It's you know you have to do something that is building the masculine body itself and I think one of the easiest ways and I you know there's other ways to do it is either lift weights, run, do something that just lights that fire and that competitive nature inside of you.

Speaker 2:

Which I think the opposite, is the woman who's moving in her, to her sensuality, right, that's how she's in her feminine energy. Men need to push, they do, they need to sweat, they need to use their bodies fully, absolutely. So back to really quick. Stop seeking permission, pick one decision you've been overthinking, big or small, and make the call today. No second guessing, no asking 10 people for their opinion Decide, act and stand by it. Yep, okay, and then rebuild your body, rebuild your energy, which we just hit on. It thrives in physical exertion and challenge.

Speaker 1:

So can I? Just something popped in my head. So I'm just going to say it so a lot of times, guys, uh, we'll go to our counterparts and we will say, where do you want to eat dinner tonight? And they will say, I don't care. And then we say, well, where do you really want to go?

Speaker 2:

Yeah.

Speaker 1:

What they're looking for you to be is the man Masculine energy. Okay, we're going here Now. Sometimes you'll do that and they'll be like whoa, whoa, I don't want to go there.

Speaker 2:

It's like well, you know what. You had the decision. You had a choice.

Speaker 1:

Now I made the decision. We're going here, don't deviate.

Speaker 2:

Yeah.

Speaker 1:

Now I know you feel like you should deviate, but don't deviate, because that shows your feminine counterpart that you are going to make a decision and go with it. Now you ask and that will, I'll guarantee you next time you ask. They will make a statement.

Speaker 1:

If they care, if they care, but if they literally tell you they don't care, believe them and act. They will be like whoa, this is the guy I want to be with, as crazy as that sounds, but don't step into your feminine energy and be passive and just be no, no, literally. That is how a woman is challenging to see if you are a man, believe it or not.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, yep, I love that. Okay, so we talked about rebuilding your body. Push your body every single day, whether it's lifting heavy, running hard or simply taking cold showers to train mental resilience, build strength and discipline. Your confidence will follow. Just to wrap that part up. Next one is to master your presence. Be still and command respect. Again, feminine energy moves and flows. Masculine energy is still grounded and unshakable. When you're always fidgeting, over-explaining or nervously feeling silence, you leak power.

Speaker 1:

Yeah. So I'll see a lot of guys walk into a room head down shoulders in kind of just you know, and they're they're very weak looking in their presence, even though they're bigger guys. So you know, you got to learn to.

Speaker 2:

You know, put your shoulders back stand up, be the predator like a warrior yeah, be a predator, walk in there.

Speaker 1:

That doesn't mean you're trying to kill somebody, it just means you're in your masculine energy.

Speaker 2:

You're in your energy. I love that. Um so I'll hold eye contact. Don't be afraid to let silence build tension. You know the next one is own your word. Do what you say you'll do. Again, you are the epitome for me. Nothing kills masculine energy faster than being flaky, unreliable or inconsistent. If your word means nothing, neither do you.

Speaker 1:

Yep.

Speaker 2:

So pick one area where you've been undisciplined your fitness, business relationships make a commitment and follow through relentlessly. No excuses, no half measures.

Speaker 1:

And you know what you guys I'm going to tell you right now measures. And you know what you guys I'm going to tell you right now women will try you in this. That is what they do for us and you can not deviate. Yeah, you got to stand firm, and then they look and they honor you for doing that, right, and that's the thing. But they're going to test you. They're going to test you, just FYI.

Speaker 2:

All right, lead even when it's hard. A man in his masculine does not sit back and hope someone else will take the lead. He steps up even when he's uncertain. So next time a decision needs to be made at work, in a relationship or in a social setting Actually, you kind of just said this with the restaurant example Be the one to take the lead. It doesn't have to be perfect, but own the moment and make the call.

Speaker 1:

Now I will say one thing, guys that doesn't mean you can't ask for directions. It's good to take the lead, but it's still okay to ask for directions.

Speaker 2:

Maybe also if it's not a situation where someone's asking someone to take the lead. Be aware of that too. Totally Cultivate emotional control. Stop reacting like a boy. Masculine energy isn't about suppressing emotions, but about mastering them. A weak man reacts emotionally to everything Anger, fear, insecurity. A strong man feels deeply, but he chooses his response.

Speaker 1:

Yeah and so, uh, you know, Sonny and I've been watching a Navy SEAL show and it's an interesting part when they they bring these people in for physical contact for the very first time, and what I mean by physical is they're going to be in a fight.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, and these are just regular people. They're not Navy SEALs, they're just celebrities who are going through this challenge.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, and so when they get there, they have to literally try to kill this person.

Speaker 2:

That's their goal they're punching Full rage.

Speaker 1:

They're elbowing Masculine energy at 185%. It's turned on. But as soon as they tap them they've got to be able to switch that. Switch Turn it off and just literally be present. Calm that energy down, yeah, and take care of the situation.

Speaker 2:

Yeah.

Speaker 1:

And I mean that is where you learn, as a man, to be in control. And if you want to learn more about this, read the book. Predictably Irrational. Because there's a point, men, that we get so far that we can actually be out of our mind, and when you're out of your mind, you're out of control. So there's a fine point of getting your threshold so high that you'll be out of your mind. You can't allow that. So you've got to learn how to push to where you're still in your mind and take all that energy, calm it down, ramp it down and assess the situation. And that takes a lot, a lot of discipline and work. But you can do it, and you can do this by learning through sports, through different scenarios in your life.

Speaker 1:

When you're confronted in something you know at a at a high intense situation, you know you can. You can either stand there and not do anything or you can say, boom, I'm going to be in this energy. So you know, I'll give you an example, and I think we brought this up one one other time before, in another story. But we were at a 4-H competition and there happened. I happened to see the scenario where this young girl was being ripped off a horse and all these things were happening that weren't good for her, by her father, by her father, into that big masculine energy. I also knew, because that young girl was there, that I had to deescalate it very quickly, yeah, and so you have to understand that what is going on. And so I went through that whole entire process, which we're not going to get into here, but I'm using that as an example, right? Because if I was to just go in there as a masculine, just start swinging punches and go, you know, would never have accomplished what needed to be accomplished.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, I feel like you invited him in a lot of ways to calm down, but we'll let him know the consequences if he did.

Speaker 1:

That's what I'm saying. It was. I was not afraid of getting hit in the face. Yeah, there was very much certainty, which is in the masculine energy. Yep Of you, do not cross this line. Now I'll give you an example in our household you know this might help you guys is my kids all know they don't cross the queen.

Speaker 2:

Yes, they do Period Very clearly.

Speaker 1:

My wife comes first, my kids come second, yeah, which means that if they start pushing sunny too far, they're gonna deal with dad period cut and dry if they back talk. You do not belittle mom, you don't? There's just certain rules in this house that are not allowed, and I do not falter no not even a little bit. Not even a little bit, they know it, but little bit they know it. But it also gives your queen, knowing she's got somebody that's got her back 185%, no matter what the situation is.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, so good, all right, so for those wanting to master this emotional energy you mentioned sports, which I love, because that's something that I've been learning myself Are there any other steps you would suggest? So, let's say somebody is triggered, they can pause, breathe deeply, assess the situation, like what would you say needs to happen if somebody is just emotionally triggered?

Speaker 1:

So emotionally triggered, so they're not reacting like a boy.

Speaker 2:

They're reacting like a man.

Speaker 1:

Is you? You, first and foremost breathe, but understand what triggered you first and foremost. Right, Cause there's all sorts of triggers. I could go in a million different directions right. So, first and foremost, stop breathe, understand? I mean? It's like a navy seal.

Speaker 1:

You can't just walk in and shoot everything that's in sight yeah you have to analyze what just happened, so understand your surroundings then at that point in time, then make a decision, but be certain about the decision, don't waffle the decision. Don't all of a sudden make a decision and then be certain about the decision. Don't waffle the decision. Don't all of a sudden make a decision and then go back up on your decision Even if it's wrong. You've got to stand in that decision for a second and just be there and be present and that will really help a lot.

Speaker 1:

But I think the biggest thing for men is just really, really, really honing in the, in the things of I've got to do some pushups today. I've got to just move. I've got to be able to just get that out of me a little bit and then take business and approach it in that masculine type of go execute, get things done, drive, drive hard, know your goals. Don't be relentless in your goals. You know, be relentless in your practice, be relentless in the things you say you're going to do, keep your word in the things like that and you'll start to really build that certainty, that, that drive, that, all those things.

Speaker 2:

I love that so good. Okay, we kind of touched on this one too. But claiming your space physically and energetically. So masculine energy is expansive, it claims space. If you shrink yourself, apologize constantly or hesitate to take up room, you weaken your presence. This is one we've already talked about as well. So when you walk into a room, stand tall or take up space, don't say sorry for being there.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, and in bodybuilding you learn this really well.

Speaker 2:

Yeah.

Speaker 1:

Those who know how to pose take up space.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, and I wish we had a camera on so we could see that they demand space and presence in what they're doing.

Speaker 1:

And that's how you win at a bodybuilding show is by being very masculine.

Speaker 2:

Very big.

Speaker 1:

I'm here, I'm very big.

Speaker 2:

I'm very big.

Speaker 1:

I'm very big, I am an alpha, I'm going to grab the judge's attention because I'm so present. Good, good.

Speaker 2:

The last one step into your sexual energy and own your desire without shame, amen. And he can channel his sexual energy into his work, his purpose and his presence. He does not repress it, overindulge in it or let it control him. He directs it.

Speaker 1:

Amen.

Speaker 2:

So next time you feel sexual energy building, instead of numbing it, channel it into your power. Use it to fuel your workouts, your work, your leadership, harness it, don't waste it. So good, and we could revisit that. In Think and Grow, rich says that exact same thing. It's called sexual transmutation, yep. So you got that sexual energy building. You can use it, like they even said, like if you go to the gym when you are turned on, you can lift more, you can like, do so much more because you have this energy building within you.

Speaker 1:

It's such a great energy. It's really cool and it's a really fun energy and it's it's supposed to be expressive, it's supposed to be that, you know, and it's also supposed to be that attack like ah, I want that, you know, Um, and it's a lot of fun and we can dive into this a lot more in a different, in a different scenario than we're at right now. But, like, it is one of our superpowers, for the feminine and the masculine for sure.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, okay. So final thought masculine energy isn't something you're born with or without. It's something you build. It's a fire that needs tending, a mountain that needs rebuilding. A presence that must be cultivated If you feel weak, if you feel lost. A presence that must be cultivated If you feel weak, if you feel lost or if you feel unsteady, you can reclaim all of that.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, and I'll never forget as a young boy you know and you know trying to lift a hay bale and being exhausted to turn around and having a cow kick me so hard. I thought I was going to sit there and cry for an hour and my dad saying get up right now.

Speaker 1:

The cow has got to go through that and you can deal with the pain later. You know like and I know that sounds harsh, I know it sounds harsh, but when you get around men and you are, you're like, you're all in your masculine energy. It's crazy, the crap, that you have to just buck up, take it, go, grit down and become a machine. And there is something about quit crying and get moving.

Speaker 1:

But, there's also a part of a man that you've got to. When you have that chance to express that emotion, you express it. I'm not saying you should not express it. Don't take this wrong that you shouldn't express your feelings.

Speaker 2:

But what I am saying is sometimes, sometimes you've just got to step up.

Speaker 1:

You've got a backpack on you and you're climbing the top of that hill and it's like I can't go anymore, to heck, you can't get your butt up, get moving. And I mean, now go, let's go. And you've got to dig deep and you've got to grit your teeth and you've just got to step into that masculine power and go.

Speaker 2:

Yeah so good Drive.

Speaker 2:

All right, we're going to talk about how, in partnership, the magic is in the polarity. So, just like a battery needs positive and negative charges to generate power, an intimate relationship thrives on opposite, yet complementary energies. We've kind of touched on this the more grounded and present the masculine is, the more he can hold space for the feminine to fully express herself. Likewise, the more radiant and open the feminine energy, the more the masculine feels driven to protect, lead and provide. This is a very magnetic attraction, right? And it's not through force, it's through polarity. And we kind of already talked about the channeling and the conduit and all the things that a man is capable of bringing to the woman and the woman is capable of bringing to the man.

Speaker 2:

And another way I like to think about it is a river carving through a mountain range to the man. And another way I like to think about it is a river carving through a mountain range. You know the water, the feminine, is fluid, adaptable and powerful, yet it needs that mountain structure to give it direction. Without the mountain, the river would be lost. Without the river, the mountain would be lifeless. One does not overpower the other. Together they shape the landscape. I'm going to skip a little bit of this, but I think a major imbalance that happens in a lot of relationships is when a woman is in her masculine energy all day long and really isn't paying attention to that, and then you both go to bed at night. There's going to be some issues.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, for sure.

Speaker 2:

Right. There's no polarity if both of you are in your masculine energy and then there's zero magic in the bedroom. The spark fades, the attraction dulls and the relationship in general, even if it's like all day, the woman's in her masculine is going to lose charge because you're both stuck in the same energetic state.

Speaker 1:

Exactly right. Yeah, and I find this a lot in relationships that I watch that the woman becomes like get this done because she has to take charge, because the man will not step up, and so she gets tired of begging him to step into his masculine energy.

Speaker 2:

Yeah.

Speaker 1:

She's exhausted over it.

Speaker 2:

Yeah.

Speaker 1:

So, you know, it's like I can't blame him all the time, and sometimes a man gets really tired of always just driving and driving and not have any woman there to support in the other. But when you align these two things the right way, it's freaking explosive what happens?

Speaker 2:

Yep, and you know, even going further with a little polarity and like, let's say, I'm even in my feminine energy or you're in your masculine energy. Yeah, we're going into the bedroom.

Speaker 1:

Yeah.

Speaker 2:

We probably have different goals with what we're doing there, right?

Speaker 1:

Oh sure.

Speaker 2:

So women aren't goal-driven. The same way, a man is yeah, for her. Intimacy is not just about the destination, it's about the journey. She wants connection, she wants sensuality, she wants presence as much, if not more, than the climax.

Speaker 1:

Yep.

Speaker 2:

But for the masculine, he's deeply tied to pursuit, achievement and direction. He's goal-driven by nature, and that's going to extend into the bedroom as well.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, but once a man understands this, then he can have so much fun with it, because then he can help architect that Then he's leading, then he's how do I say, he's guiding the surrender. Yeah.

Speaker 2:

So he's still in that leadership role. So much, which is beautiful.

Speaker 1:

It is. It's a fun thing, it's really fun.

Speaker 2:

And that's the dance of polarity. It's a cycle of giving and receiving, leading and flowing, structure and expansion. When both partners embrace this natural essence, without resistance, without competition, the relationship doesn't just function. It erupts with passion, depth and an unstoppable magnetic force. Amen and we say all the time, when we're aligned, it seems like the whole world is unstoppable for us, right?

Speaker 1:

Well, it is Because it doesn't matter what we go through. We've got each other, we've got all these things. It's a beautiful thing.

Speaker 2:

Yeah. And then just a final thought on these types of energies and we've touched on a little bit, but the best leaders in the world have both. You're going to have your dominant energy and that's the one that you really need to make sure that you're tapping into the most, but you've got to be able to tap into the other. I think a good example of that is like when we go shop shopping with russell brunson. You are way more in your feminine energy than you are in your masculine, but if you were in your masculine, it would not work right right.

Speaker 2:

So the best leaders can be strong results driven. They're logical, they all this, but they're also able to tap into empathy.

Speaker 1:

Their creative energy, their creative energy, their storytelling.

Speaker 2:

So it's like this dance between the two brings out the most magnetic parts of all of us, I think.

Speaker 1:

Absolutely so good, great newsletter.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, yeah, life updates.

Speaker 1:

Well, the biggest update I have is Sunny's voice. Her vocal cords are A-okay they're okay, I'm getting my voice super, super stoked about that and uh. So we're working on getting her back to full capacity with her voice right now, and I couldn't be more excited about that thank you.

Speaker 2:

I'm so excited too, um, I'm so excited that you stepped on stage at FHL and spoke in front of 5,000 people.

Speaker 1:

Woo-woo, so much fun.

Speaker 2:

So good and I could not have been more proud of you. You absolutely crushed it.

Speaker 1:

Thank you.

Speaker 2:

Yep. Then we also had so much fun at FHL. We went to birthday parties, we went to a black tie event, we went to a Persian restaurant. We did so many, so many fun things we celebrated our 30-year anniversary. Yep and we also hosted our final session of Magnetic Woohoo. We brought our people into Ricky's room Secret room in the back of Maceo and they had some headshots taken by the amazing Molly Rose. So fun. We saw so many of our IDEO EPIC people. It's just, we're like one big family.

Speaker 1:

Amen.

Speaker 2:

Right. Then also, you obviously hosted a roundtable one night, which was also amazing, and then, when we got home, little Lila was here. Yay, we got to see our grandbaby. She just turned four months old. She's already about sitting up by herself and she has discovered that she has hands that can grab things and put them in her mouth. Is there anything else I'm missing?

Speaker 1:

I don't think so. I think that's pretty much. We've had snowstorms, we've had all the fun things, but glad to be home and building like crazy. We have launched our mastermind, which is absolutely awesome, and, uh, you know, sonny and I are in the midst of writing a book.

Speaker 2:

We are.

Speaker 1:

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